How can we know what love looks likes with another person if we’ve never experienced it within ourselves? How can I give you something I don’t know how to give myself?
What does loving yourself look like?
It will look different to every person. For some it will be about extra time to do something for themselves. For others it looks like exercise. It can even look like getting more sleep. But before you do any of these things, you have to believe your time is worthy and that taking time out for yourself is not only important, but mandatory.
Loving yourself also helps set the standard for how others will attempt to love you. Just like math lessons, where our teachers taught us the formulas and showed us how to solve problems, we have to show others the formula for loving us.
Don’t give up. When someone mistreats you or shows love in a way you don’t understand, take time to sit down with them and explain to them what your formula is and they can use that formula to love you better.
If you’re wondering where to start, here’s a little quiz to take to start the conversation:
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
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